We have been going back and forth about remaining friends, or like he puts it, going back to the way we were before the relationship even came into play.
I am really close friends with other people I've dated before, but to the honest, it's proving kind of difficult with this guy. First, he had issues with us breaking up (I called it), and he expressed those issues to some of our mutual friends. I eventually got wind of being in his black books. Etc.
Here are my issues:
- I'm supposed to date my friend. That's what the Mothers have always told us. How long should this friendship have been? How close should we be, as friends? Are we supposed to consider the possibility of a break-up in the long run? Do we discuss what happens and how we are to repair our friendship if we do break-up?
- Depending on who calls the break-up, if the other person is trying very hard to make sure that the friendship is rebuilt, could the 'break-up-er' feel like they're pressing to get back together, and take offense? Or put up a guard?
- After the YEARS of healing (or whatever you want to call it), when we become friends, and start feeling overly comfy with each other, can we honestly say that we are true friends, or are we just pretending, and letting each other believe that we're cool?
- If they we don't see each other again for like (lemme calculate)... 6yrs, when we do see again, what should be the first reaction?
Just a brief thought.
M.A.
